7 Common Problems That Cause Divorce
Marriage is hard and feels shaky sometimes. Erma Bombeck said, “Marriage has no guarantees. If that’s what you’re looking for, go live with a car battery.” There are so many challenges facing marriages today. And although each relationship has its own trials and stresses, certain challenges are common to most…
Warning Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble
Do you ever wonder if your marriage might be heading for divorce? Are you and your spouse so busy with life that you’re losing sight of your relationship and missing warning signs that deserve your attention? “People think marriages end with an affair or something equally explosive,” says John Gottman,…
7 Tips From The Self-Confident Cat Who Sees a Lion In The Mirror!
One of the most attractive traits in a potential romantic partner or spouse is self-confidence – someone who is self-assured. A person with low self-esteem who is plagued by self-doubt and constantly second-guessing themselves is a turn-off because it floods the relationship with uncertainty and emotional “leaning.” Before we define…
Is Optimism the Super Power Missing From Your Life & Marriage?
Negativity and pessimism are death to a marriage. How do they enter a relationship? You either allow or bring them in. Many spouses make the mistake of forcing their partner to be more positive, but that’s not where you start. (You see where we’re going with this line of reasoning.) …
Trouble Motivating Your Spouse?
Motivating your spouse isn’t always easy. It’s hard to know how to help them find a better job or career, start exercising, lose weight, be more positive, get out and live more, or create a budget and do financial planning. Stay Focused on What You Can Change You can get…
Are Men Less Emotional Than Women?
What do you believe? Are men less emotional than women? Some men are more emotional than women, and some women aren’t very emotional at all. It seems society tends to believe that men are less emotional than women. Maybe it’s because men are taught to “man up” and keep their…
Part 13: A Final Word About Boundaries
The Purpose of Boundaries We don’t set boundaries to control other people. Boundaries are meant to serve and protect what matters most to us. They allow us to live our lives on our terms. Without boundaries, we’re at the mercy of agendas, feelings and circumstances. At the end of the…
Part 11: Dealing With People Who Resist Your Boundaries
People will resist and test your boundaries (you will even resist your boundaries occasionally). The important thing isn’t knowing that your boundaries will be tested, but how to protect them in firm yet polite and courteous ways. Prepare for Resistance Simply knowing and acknowledging that people will resist your boundaries…
Part 9: Setting Boundaries At Work
People struggle with setting boundaries within the workplace, but when you consider all the time they spend at work, having workplace boundaries is essential to health and happiness. The Case for Workplace Boundaries Professional boundaries guard against burnout and feeling unfulfilled in the workplace. Workplace boundaries prevent you from pushing…
Part 2: Why You Need Boundaries in Love and Life
Boundaries inform people about what matters most to you and how you manage your time, life, and energy. They demonstrate your beliefs, priorities, and values. Just as we use fences and gates to protect our personal property, boundaries are the invisible fences that protect our wellbeing. In general, there are…