Remaining Compatible as you Change
Compatibility is highly overrated and misunderstood. Many people believe that compatibility is what determines whether or not a couple will have a happy marriage. They believe that it is something that you have and not something that you can work towards. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Compatibility…
Stop the Blame Game in its Tracks
Has your husband or wife ever denied saying something that you vividly remember him or her saying? Well, it turns out that spouses often have different memories of the same event. Research shows that sometimes spouses can’t even agree on events that happened in the last 24 hours, like whether…
Don’t Share Too Much with Friends and Family
Any confidential information that is shared between spouses must be guarded like a treasure. Sharing this information with a third party, including friends and family, is dishonorable, and there are many ways in which it can go terribly wrong. Here are some of the things that could happen. Losing control…
Coping with Mental Illness in Marriage
Mental health conditions are fairly common. There are many people with mental health conditions who are in happy and healthy relationships and marriages. However, negotiating the ups and downs of marriage and relationships can be especially difficult for them. If you have a mental health condition, there are a couple…
When Perfect Isn’t Good Enough
When you are around your spouse all the time, it is easy to nit-pick their flaws. Issues that were just mildly annoying in the honeymoon stage become major roadblocks to a happy marriage. You stop acknowledging their strengths and start nagging them about their weaknesses. The key to a healthy…
Fostering a Deeper Connection
Your bond with your wife or husband is like a garden. It needs to be tended regularly or else it will gradually fade away and ruin your happy marriage. Here are some ways in which you can nurture your bond with your spouse. Celebrate special occasions Couples should always make…
Know Your Love Languages: Physical Touch
What do you think about the research that claims we need four hugs a day for maintenance, eight to be healthy and twelve to thrive? How many hugs do you and your spouse enjoy daily? (Some of you are thinking, “Twelve hugs a day? Are you kidding me! I’m lucky…
Know Your Love Languages: Words of Affirmation
If a happy marriage is your goal, you need to get into the habit of affirming and encouraging your partner. Many people spend their days feeling like they are being watched or judged, and want to come home to a safe and supportive environment where they can let their guards…
The Art of Giving Compliments
Many people believe that compliments for women don’t have to be sincere as long as they are flattering. Unfortunately, this isn’t true, especially in marriage. Most people would rather receive simple, specific and honest compliments from their spouses than vague and dishonest flattery. How to Give Compliments Specific compliments sound…
What to Share and Not to Share With Each Other
Any couple that wants to have a happy marriage must choose what to share and what not to share with each other. Although complete honesty is often encouraged in relationships, it can be a double edged sword. While it is important to disclose certain things such as family history and…