Transform Yourself to Transform Your Relationship
You have told your spouse- multiple times- that something they do bothers you but they have yet to change. You are angry at them. You can’t believe they can be so insensitive. Sound familiar? Well, if you are trying to figure out how to save a marriage, there is one…
It’s Absolutely Okay to Have Fears, Doubts and Insecurities
We all have fears and insecurities that can keep us from having the care-free marriage of our dreams. We may try to hide them from our partners but they always rear their ugly heads at the most inconvenient time. Also, hiding our insecurities often leaves us feeling trapped and keep us from achieving our…
How Much Should You Really Share With Each Other
Any couple that wants to have a happy marriage must choose what to share and what not to share with each other. Although complete honesty is often encouraged in relationships, it can be a double edged sword. While it is important to disclose certain things such as family history and…
How to be Happily Married in an Imperfect World
Far fewer marriages would end in divorce if more couples created a healthy marriage code. What is a code? It’s a set of rules/principles/behaviors that you will follow regardless of your situation or circumstances. Why is this important? Because it reinforces the structural integrity of your marriage. Without a marriage…
This is What True Commitment Looks Like
What does the notion of “commitment” mean to you? What would your spouse have to do for you to be absolutely convinced that he or she is TOTALLY committed to you and your marriage? Within the context of marriage, commitment is about unity, faithfulness, monogamy, friendship, affection, love, respect and…
Compromising The Right Way
We’ve all heard that marriage is all about compromise. But, is there a right and a wrong way to compromise? There are times when it’s necessary to give-in and compromise.That doesn’t mean you’re admitting that you’re wrong; it simply means that your spouse’s happiness is more important to you that…
Happy People Make Better Parents
This should be common knowledge but I will say it anyway: Your relationship with your spouse is affecting your children. In fact, if your marriage is in trouble, then assume right now that your children have noticed and are likely suffering emotional pain. Refusing to get marital help only prolongs…
Respect Each Other’s Privacy
Healthy relationships cannot exist without mutual respect for each other’s privacy. This is why boundaries are so important in marriage. Privacy in marriage is perfectly fine but secrecy is not. Privacy allows spouses to keep certain things that are not suitable for public consumption to themselves. For instance, you don’t…
Pay Attention to the Little Things
Marriage is just as much about the little things as it is about big things. The small everyday moments of love and support are just as essential to a happy marriage as big things like communication, faithfulness, honesty and trust. In fact, it’s the little things that make everyday married…
Not All Communication is Good for Your Marriage
We all have unique communication styles influenced by our age, personality and culture among other factors. Our communication styles affect the way we share and receive information with others. Unfortunately, not all styles are beneficial when it comes to communication in marriage. Some styles can be harmful to your relationship…