Focus On What’s Working
Complaining and negativity can ruin a happy marriage. This is because being married to a complainer is extremely frustrating and emotionally draining. It is very hard to stay positive when your partner is constantly focusing on the negative. It is also difficult to resolve relationship issues when the other person…
Can Your Partner Trust You to Keep His or Her Secrets?
Confidentiality is an essential part of any healthy relationship. Consistent communication in relationships can only occur when both parties feel comfortable enough to share their innermost selves with each other. In marriage, any confidential information that is shared between spouses must be guarded like a treasure. Sharing this information with…
Transform Yourself to Transform Your Relationship
You have told your spouse- multiple times- that something they do bothers you but they have yet to change. You are angry at them. You can’t believe they can be so insensitive. Sound familiar? Well, if you are trying to figure out how to save a marriage, there is one…
It’s Absolutely Okay to Have Fears, Doubts and Insecurities
We all have fears and insecurities that can keep us from having the care-free marriage of our dreams. We may try to hide them from our partners but they always rear their ugly heads at the most inconvenient time. Also, hiding our insecurities often leaves us feeling trapped and keep us from achieving our…
Write It Down!
Writing things down is an easy way to avoid forgetting past thoughts and feelings. It can give you a unique perspective of your relationship and help with decision making and communication. Writing can also be used as a means of communication in relationships since you can organize your thoughts without being…
How Much Should You Really Share With Each Other
Any couple that wants to have a happy marriage must choose what to share and what not to share with each other. Although complete honesty is often encouraged in relationships, it can be a double edged sword. While it is important to disclose certain things such as family history and…
How to be Happily Married in an Imperfect World
Far fewer marriages would end in divorce if more couples created a healthy marriage code. What is a code? It’s a set of rules/principles/behaviors that you will follow regardless of your situation or circumstances. Why is this important? Because it reinforces the structural integrity of your marriage. Without a marriage…
This is What True Commitment Looks Like
What does the notion of “commitment” mean to you? What would your spouse have to do for you to be absolutely convinced that he or she is TOTALLY committed to you and your marriage? Within the context of marriage, commitment is about unity, faithfulness, monogamy, friendship, affection, love, respect and…
Asking Your Partner for Help and Support
Are you getting the help and support you need from your partner? One of the many benefits of marriage is having a helper that you can always count on. Sadly, this help doesn’t come automatically – even in a happy marriage. You often have to tell your partner exactly what you…
Compromising The Right Way
We’ve all heard that marriage is all about compromise. But, is there a right and a wrong way to compromise? There are times when it’s necessary to give-in and compromise.That doesn’t mean you’re admitting that you’re wrong; it simply means that your spouse’s happiness is more important to you that…