The Hidden Threat to Your Marriage
One of the quiet dangers that can undermine even the strongest marriages isn’t infidelity or constant conflict — it’s something far more subtle: alternative monitoring. This psychological term refers to the habit of mentally evaluating or fantasizing about what life might be like with someone other than your spouse. It’s more…
What Would You Do If…
What would you do if in seven days you would never see your spouse, family, or loved ones again? What priorities would suddenly become most important? What words would you make sure to say? What wrongs would you rush to make right? What memories would you try to create in those…
Doing Time or Doing Love
A ten-year-old girl and boy were asked: How do you decide who to marry? The boy said, “You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.” The girl answered, “No person really decides…
Is Friendship the Missing Link in Your Marriage?
When we first fall in love, friendship often lays the foundation. We talk for hours, share dreams, laugh over silly things, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. But somewhere along the journey of shared bills, schedules, and responsibilities, many couples lose sight of that original bond. What happens when the…
Prescription for Unhappy Couples
Warning: I have something to tell you that could be the last thing that you want to hear. And there’s a great chance it will either frustrate or overwhelm you because you’re a very busy person. I’m not sure if you will even believe me. But here it goes anyway:For…
The #1 Sign Your Marriage May Be in Trouble—and How to Fix It
This week’s marriage tip is short and sweet, but I’m keeping it brief because I want it to have a big impact. So, here it is—the #1 clue that your marriage might be in trouble and headed for divorce: Negative patterns of communication. According to researchers at the University of Denver, these…
Adults Only
Did you know that having sex can burn 209 calories in 30 minutes? Sex. We don’t talk about it much but maybe we should. Truth is, healthy and happy marriages usually include frequent sex. However, sex is a byproduct of a healthy relationship rather than a cure for a bad marriage. It’s difficult to make…
One Little Secret
Here’s a secret for a happy marriage that’s simple, easy, and takes less than 25 seconds. Yet, the impact it has on a relationship is profound. It’s a sincere prayer that I pray often. Instead of praying for God to change my spouse, I pray for Him to change me. I…
Making History
This week, I want to leave you with a simple but powerful thought that I believe can truly make a difference in your relationship. Every day, you and your spouse are making history together. Think about that for a moment. You are actively creating a life—your life. And this life, as…
Unhappily Wed
It might seem a little odd for me to talk about divorce in a weekly marriage blog to you. But here’s what I know: Many more couples, Christians included, are thinking about divorce than they let on.Maybe you’ve thought about it, too. Divorce, though, is a permanent solution to temporary problems and…