Focus On What’s Working
Complaining and negativity can ruin a happy marriage. This is because being married to a complainer is extremely frustrating and emotionally draining. It is very hard to stay positive when your partner is constantly focusing on the negative. It is also difficult to resolve relationship issues when the other person…
Transform Yourself to Transform Your Relationship
You have told your spouse- multiple times- that something they do bothers you but they have yet to change. You are angry at them. You can’t believe they can be so insensitive. Sound familiar? Well, if you are trying to figure out how to save a marriage, there is one…
It’s Absolutely Okay to Have Fears, Doubts and Insecurities
We all have fears and insecurities that can keep us from having the care-free marriage of our dreams. We may try to hide them from our partners but they always rear their ugly heads at the most inconvenient time. Also, hiding our insecurities often leaves us feeling trapped and keep us from achieving our…
Write It Down!
Writing things down is an easy way to avoid forgetting past thoughts and feelings. It can give you a unique perspective of your relationship and help with decision making and communication. Writing can also be used as a means of communication in relationships since you can organize your thoughts without being…
How to be Happily Married in an Imperfect World
Far fewer marriages would end in divorce if more couples created a healthy marriage code. What is a code? It’s a set of rules/principles/behaviors that you will follow regardless of your situation or circumstances. Why is this important? Because it reinforces the structural integrity of your marriage. Without a marriage…
Happy People Make Better Parents
This should be common knowledge but I will say it anyway: Your relationship with your spouse is affecting your children. In fact, if your marriage is in trouble, then assume right now that your children have noticed and are likely suffering emotional pain. Refusing to get marital help only prolongs…
Pay Attention to the Little Things
Marriage is just as much about the little things as it is about big things. The small everyday moments of love and support are just as essential to a happy marriage as big things like communication, faithfulness, honesty and trust. In fact, it’s the little things that make everyday married…
Staying Happily Married while Caring for Aging Parents
People are living longer. Which means that many couples today are caring for an aging parent or loved one who lives with them. This is a blessing for everyone involved, but over time it can become a source of profound stress. If this situation is stressing your marriage, then you…
Give Your Partner a Nice Gift Just Because
Do you and your partner exchange gifts in marriage even when there is no occasion or holiday that demands gift giving? Giving a surprise gift on Valentine’s Day, birthdays, anniversaries and holidays lessens the surprise because chances are that the recipient was already expecting it. Sometimes it is good to…
Your Husband or Wife Should Know Your Fears and Insecurities
Most people would love to be able to stifle all their insecurities and have a care-free marriage, but that’s hard to do. Fears and insecurities have a way of coming out when it’s most inconvenient. Also, hiding your insecurities can leave you feeling trapped and keep you from achieving your…