Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage Part 11: How Nice Are You?
Complimenting & Praising How Nice Are You? How affirming of a person do you think you are? Are you someone who: Gives encouragement? Gives compliments? Gives credit where credit is due? Gives praise? And if so, then do you offer these things to your husband or wife or only to…
Stop Your Divorce and Save Your Marriage Part 10: Before & After Kids
Foggy Memory Remember what life was like before kids? (It’s all kind of a big blur to me.) One question: What did you do with all of your free time! Having children changes things. Time once spent on yourself is now spent on nursing fevers, potty training, chauffeuring, chaperoning, trips…
Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage Part 9: Money & Politics
Money Money Make Money Let’s face it. Care to pick a fight with your spouse? Then just disagree about money. Talk about kicking over the hornets nest. Few things cause greater marital strife than money, especially when times are tough. But even when the economy is great, money is still…
Stop Your Divorce & Save Your Marriage Part 8: Sweat The Small Stuff
Gender Differences Are Not Irreconcilable One of my favorite comedians is Bill Cosby. He claims that gender differences fill a marriage with vibrancy and delight. In other words, women aren’t just “men” who can happen to have babies. And men aren’t just “women” who have a thing for spiking footballs….
Stop Your Divorce & Save Your Marriage Part 7: How to Save Your Marriage
THE CASE FOR MARRIAGE For the past several weeks, we’ve discussed some of the myths and assumptions that surround divorce. One of the reasons is to raise awareness that divorce might not be the best (or even a very good) pathway out of an unhappy marriage. There are definite advantages…
Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage Part 6
The Case For Staying Married What is your attitude towards marriage? Do you think of it more as a “ball and chain” or an exciting adventure? For some, marriage is about restriction and loss of personal independence. But to others, it’s about freedom and experiencing new realms of happiness, joy…
Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage Part 5
For the past few weeks we’ve discussed common myths and assumptions about divorce. Two popular ones are that divorce is a pathway to greater happiness, and that it is better for the children. It’s tragic that these myths, and others, have taken on a life of their own. But what’s…
Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage Part 4
Another Myth About Divorce That Won’t Die Sometime you will hear marriage professionals claim that it’s healthier for the children if mom and dad ended the marriage instead of keeping them in close proximity to an unhappy and loveless relationship. Well, in my opinion, they are promoting a harmful myth…
Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage Part 3: The Emotional Costs Of Divorce
A common marital myth that many unhappy couples fall prey to today is that divorce is a pathway from misery to happiness. Studies suggest otherwise. In fact, according to a report by a team of family scholars at the University of Chicago, it was discovered that unhappily married adults who…
Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage Part 2
IS MARRIAGE LEGALLY PROTECTED? According to the Bible, marriage is a covenant – a sacred promise. But according to the laws of the United States, marriage is a contract. In fact, the marriage “contract” is one of the easiest to break because the legal system has made the divorce process…