As humans, we are constantly reliving the past and planning for the future. It’s the way our brains are wired. Living in the moment and enjoying the now doesn’t come naturally for most of us. We need to make a conscious effort to enjoy everyday moments in the midst of the grind.

Prioritize your marriage

When you are married, you have to constantly fight the temptation to priories your kids or your careers over your marriage. There’s always something that needs urgent attention so going with the flow does not leave much time for a happy marriage.

Living in the moment has to be intentional. You have to consciously savor every moment with your spouse whether you’re doing something mundane like grocery shopping or doing some fun activities for couples.

Living and loving in the now makes even the most difficult times in your married life more bearable. When you’re not thinking of the problems of the past or worrying about the future, you’re a lot less stressed and more open to having fun.

Let go

Pain from your past can keep you from enjoying the present. It’s hard to find joy in your spouse when you’re still hurt and angry about something that they did yesterday or the day before.

This doesn’t mean that you should be quick to sweep issues under the rug without properly resolving them. It just means that you do not have to go through life with the past hanging over your head.

It’s perfectly fine to set aside conflicts and marriage problems and enjoy the present with your spouse. You can then pick them back up and address them when you’re ready.

Guard your time together jealously

This goes hand in hand with prioritizing your marriage. Schedule time together as a couple and then guard that time jealously. Be prepared to say “no” to any non-emergencies that try to steal your time together.

Enjoying married life does not come automatically, you have to make a conscious effort to make it happen by prioritizing your marriage, guarding your time together and being willing to let go of the past.