When a marriage is failing, divorce can seem like the easiest way out.  But don’t give up. Take a deep breath and follow these 8 tips to save your marriage and keep your family together.

1.  First, make the commitment to save your marriage so things will not get out of hand completely. Having this determination inside your heart will make you more eager to do whatever you can do to resolve issues.

2. Know the reasons which led to the problems, such as unsettled grudges, a communication gap, an affair, continuous disagreements, issues on parenting, or a possessive attitude. Knowing the cause helps to determine the proper solution.

3.  Be patient and tolerant when it comes to applying the solutions. Wait until the needed change takes hold in your relationship. And keep talking to each other on how to resolve conflicts.

4.  Cultivate humility in yourself and learn to accept your mistakes and things you’ve said or done that might have hurt the one you love. Asking for forgiveness is one of the best ways to show that you are sincere.

5.  Take time to listen to each other. Communication is not only about talking but also about listening. Share your concerns, personal and professional, and reciprocate listening to your spouse, too. Despite the busy schedules each of you face, taking time to listen to each other is necessary to saving and making a marriage strong.

6.  Go for a vacation or plan romantic dates with your spouse. This will have a calming influence and offer the chance to express your love for each other apart from life’s daily demands.

7.  Consider seeking the advice of close relatives or trusted friends. But remember that this doesn’t replace marriage counseling.

8.  Though it is not often advisable, some couples choose a trial separation as they work through their marital issues.

Saving a marriage takes much effort and determination. But if you truly want a lasting marriage and happy family, then keep moving onward in your efforts to restore your relationship. You will be glad you did for it’s one of the best decisions you will ever make.