Can This Marriage Be Saved?
With so many marriages on the verge of failing and divorce rates at an all time high, “Can this marriage be saved?” is a question that is on the lips of many married people today.
If you’re wondering whether or not you can save your marriage, I have some encouraging news. Just the fact that you are wondering whether it can be saved is in itself a good sign.
One of the reasons why divorce rates are high is because people are less willing to try and save their marriage.
Do you really think there were fewer marriage problems forty or fifty years ago?
Marriage was just as difficult then as it is today. But perhaps people didn’t give up on relationships quite as fast back then as it seems they do now.
The most important thing with regards to saving a marriage is this: commitment.
You and your spouse need to be committed to dealing with your marital problems and saving the marriage.
Once you’re both committed to repairing the relationship, then consider seeing a marriage counselor for help in working through feelings and issues. And during that process, do whatever you can to be a source of encouragement and support for each other.
If you find that your spouse isn’t as committed to saving the marriage as you are, then please don’t despair. There are things you can do to try and save the marriage on your own. It will take a lot of work but you can do it.
Consider beginning the restoration process by offering your spouse some reasons why you both should try to save the marriage.
For instance, if you have children, then offer this as a good reason why your marriage deserves a second or third chance.
Here’s another reason to consider sharing. Like or not, whatever marriage problems you’re struggling with right now are likely to follow you both into your next relationships — so why not deal with your marriage problems and save the marriage?
Marriage problems are an opportunity for a husband and wife to work together as a team and to grow. If this happens, then the marriage will be stronger than it was before the marriage problems existed.
Believe it or not, many couples have discovered that it’s possible to save their marriage even when one spouse has fallen in love with someone else! People fall in and out of love. This makes it more difficult but not impossible to save a marriage.
In the end, only you know the answer to the question, “can this marriage be saved?”
Perhaps a better question might be, “Do I want this marriage to be saved?”
If the answer to that question is yes, then do whatever you can to turn things around because there is a very, very good chance that you will save your marriage.