Doing Time or Doing Love
A ten-year-old girl and boy were asked: How do you decide who to marry? The boy said, “You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.” The girl answered, “No person really decides…
Is Friendship the Missing Link in Your Marriage?
When we first fall in love, friendship often lays the foundation. We talk for hours, share dreams, laugh over silly things, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. But somewhere along the journey of shared bills, schedules, and responsibilities, many couples lose sight of that original bond. What happens when the…
Prescription for Unhappy Couples
Warning: I have something to tell you that could be the last thing that you want to hear. And there’s a great chance it will either frustrate or overwhelm you because you’re a very busy person. I’m not sure if you will even believe me. But here it goes anyway:For…
The #1 Sign Your Marriage May Be in Trouble—and How to Fix It
This week’s marriage tip is short and sweet, but I’m keeping it brief because I want it to have a big impact. So, here it is—the #1 clue that your marriage might be in trouble and headed for divorce: Negative patterns of communication. According to researchers at the University of Denver, these…
One Little Secret
Here’s a secret for a happy marriage that’s simple, easy, and takes less than 25 seconds. Yet, the impact it has on a relationship is profound. It’s a sincere prayer that I pray often. Instead of praying for God to change my spouse, I pray for Him to change me. I…
Do You Need More Quality Time Together?
How much time do you and your spouse spend together? If you’re in a “typical” marriage, then here’s your problem: You’re most likely time-deprived. Now, when I talk with my spouse about spending time together, we’re not talking about two warm bodies sharing the same space while each is doing his/her own thing. Granted,…
Negative Communication In Marriage
The existence of negative communication patterns is the best predictor of divorce. (And did you know that we pass along these patterns to our children?) So it only makes good sense to remove them! There are four main types of negative communication. They are labeled “The Four Horsemen” and inevitably can…