Newlyweds often assume that their first Easter together will not be all that different from what it was like when they were dating. This is rarely the case.

For starters, many couples find themselves having to decide which family to spend the holiday with or having to split the holiday between their families. If they are not prepared for this and other holiday related decisions, it can lead to total chaos in their married life. Here is some advice for newlyweds to help you take full advantage of your first Easter together.

To enjoy your first Easter as a married couple, you need to communicate your expectations. You can’t make assumptions regarding where you are going to spend the holiday, the kind of activities you are going to do or the kind of gifts you are going to exchange. You also don’t want to surprise your spouse with an Easter lamb when they are expecting an Easter ham!

You need to talk to your spouse about these things so that you can work out a plan that accommodates both of your expectations. For instance, you can decide to have both ham and lamb for Easter dinner or to split your holiday between your families.

In addition to discussing expectations, you need to discuss your traditions so that you can decide which ones you are going to honor and which ones you are going to do away with. For example, you can decide not to do an Easter egg hunt if none of you is all that invested in the tradition. It is also a good idea to come up with at least one new traditional for your new family.

With these pieces of advice for newlyweds, you can make your first Easter together a memorable one.