Every married couple should have a vision for their relationship or, at least, a clear idea of what they want for their marriage and family. This is because it is extremely difficult to create the kind of marriage that you desire without clear marriage goals in mind. Just as the scripture says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”

Why Do You Need a Vision for Your Marriage?

• A vision brings unity into the marriage. It makes it so much easier to see eye-to-eye and grow together spiritually, financially and professionally. Nothing brings a couple closer than working together towards a common goal.

• Doing the right thing becomes easier when you have a vision. The vision motivates you to do things that bring you closer to your dream marriage.

• A vision gives you something positive to focus on during troubled times. It acts as the light at the end of the tunnel and motivates you to keep trying.

Creating a Vision for Your Marriage

First and foremost, you and your spouse should get together and discuss your individual visions and goals for your marriage. Write them down and then look for similarities.

It helps to break them down into categories such as spiritual, financial, lifestyle, travel, relationship and parenting goals. This way, you can ensure that every area of your life is covered.

If you are having trouble coming up with a vision for your marriage, try to get ideas from other successful couples. You don’t even have to ask them personally, there are many happily married Christian couples that have websites where they discuss their vision for their marriage and offer marriage advice for newlyweds.

Once you have your list of visions and goals, pray to God for direction. Ask him to give you a personalized and specific vision for your marriage. In addition, study the bible and find out what the bible says about the marriage goals and visions that you have in mind.

Make Your Vision a Reality

To make your vision a reality, you have to break it down into small bite-sized pieces. This means figuring out what you need to do every day to get closer to your goal. Whatever you come up with should be realistic such as spending half an hour of quality time together every day. Schedule regular marriage checkups to assess your progress and, if need be, alter your methods.

Having marriage goals and a vision for your relationship with your spouse is not only Godly and but it can also make married life significantly easier. When a couple agrees on what they want for their marriage and family, there are fewer reasons to fight and relationship issues.