Relationship Tips for a Happy Marriage Part 77: Adore Your Mate
Let’s face it, everyone likes to be adored. In fact, in marriage it is often not enough to say “I love my husband” or “I love my wife.” You also need to express your love and regard for your spouse through your actions.
Adoration is often a combination of love, respect and admiration. While some people can’t help but dote on their loved ones, others struggle to express their love. If adoration doesn’t come naturally to you, here are some tips to help you.
Ways to Adore Your Spouse
Adore your spouse unconditionally
You should adore your spouse as he or she is. Do not wait for your partner to change before you can adore him or her. Accept him even when he is not 100 percent adorable. Also, do not attempt to use adoration as a way of pressuring your significant other into doing what you want.
Adore your spouse for his or her achievements
Appreciating your spouse’s achievements is one of the easiest ways to show adoration. Let them know exactly why you adore them. You could say, “you are such a good dad” or “you are such a good cook”.
Listen to your spouse
Listening to your partner is a way of adoring them. For instance, when your spouse is having a hard time at work, one of the best things that you can do for him or her is to listen. Even when you can’t offer any advice, just listen and encourage them to face the challenge head on highlighting their strengths.
Remember to be patient and give your spouse time to formulate his or her thoughts. Your spouse will feel appreciated and you will also become your significant other’s confidant.
Make time for your spouse
Once you have kids, it’s only natural for your spouse’s needs to stop taking first priority. If this is happening in your marriage, you need to carve out time for your partner. For instance, you can plan a vacation just for the two of you and get someone to watch the kids. Just try to find creative ways to spend time with your partner.
Adore your spouse through physical intimacy
In marriage, adoration can be expressed through physical intimacy. Intimacy creates a wonderful opportunity for you to compliment your spouse on their looks. It is also a great opportunity for you remind your significant other why you are attracted to him or her.
Adore your spouse through compliments
You can show adoration by complimenting your wife or husband in front of friends and family. Giving a compliment at home is one thing and giving a compliment in public is another. You can say things like “I love my husband because he is responsible” or “I love my wife because she is so hands on with the kids.” You will be surprised what appreciating your spouse in public can do for your marriage.
If you have a hard time adoring your spouse, challenge yourself with these tips. Quit just saying “I love my wife” or “I love my husband” and learn how to express love and adoration through your actions as well.