Stop Your Divorce And Save Your Marriage Part 11: How Nice Are You?
Complimenting & Praising
How Nice Are You?
How affirming of a person do you think you are?
Are you someone who:
- Gives encouragement?
- Gives compliments?
- Gives credit where credit is due?
- Gives praise?
And if so, then do you offer these things to your husband or wife or only to other people?
How nice are you?
It’s easy for a spouse to feel unappreciated. Sometimes what you want more than anything from your husband or wife is to be acknowledged and recognized. Sadly, though, many marriages suffer from an “appreciation desert” where kind sentiments are non-existent.
How often do you find yourself wishing that your spouse would be as supportive and complimentary as your boss for the valuable contribution that you make (assuming you work for a boss like this)?
Scum & Stagnation
It’s so easy for couples to settle into their relationship and become stagnate. Without warm words of praise, compliments, and acts of kindness, a marriage can “scum” over and be a stinky place to be.
Who wants to be in a relationship where you’re taken for granted and never shown appreciation for what you do?
And if suddenly someone came along who paid you some attention and made you feel like you’re valued and special – wouldn’t you be the least bit tempted to consider what life in their world might be like?
I wonder how many people choose to get divorced because they feel unloved, unappreciated and unwanted by their spouse.
I wonder how many couples call it quits because a spirit of indifference is so strong towards each other that it has numbed and frozen their love.
Warmth & New Life
Kind and loving words infuse a marriage with a warm glow and keep love alive.
Is your marriage in trouble? Are you drifting apart? Are you unhappily wed?
If so, then start doing this asap to turn things around:
- Start giving credit where credit is due
- Shower your spouse with sincere praise
- Spice up your relationship with compliments
Open your eyes so you can recognize and acknowledge the ways that your spouse is trying to please you – and then demonstrate your appreciation. You didn’t think your wife was running all of those miles on the treadmill just for her health, did you? She wants you to have a fit and healthy wife, too!
You didn’t think your husband was working all of those long hours just to impress the boss, did you? He wants to give you a comfortable lifestyle and nice things!
I’m Proud Of You
Try this. Acknowledge whatever it is that your husband and wife is doing and then say, “I’m proud of you.”
Example, to your husband, “You are so disciplined and work so hard to provide for our family. I’m really proud of you.”
Or to your wife, “Honey, you are so generous with your time and energy to make sure the kids have everything they need, to keep our home together, and still find time be healthy. Wow. I admire you so much and I’m so proud of you.”
Do you think words like those might boost their confidence? You better believe it. Think they might increase their self-esteem? Yes. Will it fill them with a sense of pride and make them feel important to you? Absolutely.
Something as simple as complimenting your spouse and showering them with praise has the power to stop divorce in its tracks and save your marriage. Do it, and you will be mad about marriage again sooner than you ever believed was possible.