Making Time To Get Marriage Help You Deserve
Chances are, you are living life at 100 m.p.h. with your hair on fire and a crammed-full schedule.
If only you could make the sun stand still to give yourself another ten hours in the day!
Life’s demands and responsibilities keep you busy. You have a career, family, household chores, kids, laundry, birthdays, holidays, church, you probably volunteer your time, and also serve as your family’s personal chauffeur; it never ends.
And the cold, hard truth is that If you have a troubled marriage then all of those other things can make it worse because you are left with very little time to get marriage help.
There is no more time. Twenty-four hours is all you get. So if you are having marriage trouble, then you must chisel out the time to get marriage help. Period. End of story. No more excuses.
How can you find time when you are already over committed?
By asking yourself a different question. Instead of asking how you’re going to find the time to get the marriage help that you need, what you need to ask is this: How important is my marriage to me?
In your list of priorities, where is your spouse?
We make time for what is important to us. Your marriage is important. And you deserve to take the time that you need to work though your marriage problems and save your relationship.
When you take the time to get marriage help and work through your relationship problems, you will find that all of the areas of your life will improve, too.
A strong, healthy, and happy marriage decreases all of life’s other stresses.
With this in mind the question really becomes, How can I NOT make the time to get marriage help?
There are all kinds of marriage help that you can benefit from:
- Date nights
- Scheduling thirty minutes just to talk with your spouse
- Weekly marriage counseling
Be flexible with your schedule to take advantage of as many forms of marriage help as is possible.
Try this: Discuss your marital situation, as you perceive it, with your spouse. Prioritize any areas that you feel deserve immediate attention. And then decide together on ways both of you can start looking for solutions. Then get out your calendars and schedule them in.
Here is a friendly word of advice. If your schedules are full with stuff your kid’s are doing, volunteer work, work “obligations”, or wasted time watching too much TV, etc., then you need to eliminate some of those things from your schedules because your marriage comes first.
Which do you think your kids would rather have? A parent who takes them to soccer games or a mom and dad to come home to?
And another thing, is it really smart to sacrifice your marriage for that career promotion that might never happen?
This is your life and your marriage. And if you don’t care for it no one else will.
So your very first task is to go through your calendars and get rid of anything that is less important than your relationship; simplify your life and schedules to save your marriage. Do not be surprised if this one thing improves your situation immediately.
Another thing: Find a responsible babysitter for your children – preferably someone who is licensed and bonded (check the nanny services in your area) to make time alone for each other. This will be some of the best money spent on your quest to get marriage help.
It is likely that your marriage is suffering from one of the biggest stressors: Financial worries. If so, then make time to review your income and expenses; find a financial planning expert; start working on a realistic budget together.
Then again maybe all you really need is some time away together to reconnect and talk. If so, get out your calendars and schedule a two or three day mini-vacation.
Lastly, enlisting the help of a marriage counselor is always a good idea and a decision that you will not regret. You can always start with your pastor or another member of the clergy as their schedule might be more flexible. The important thing to remember is to get the help you need – so if you should be seeing a marriage counselor, then go find a marriage counselor.
Truth is, every marriage could could benefit from some kind of marriage help; you are not alone.
So please stop using time as an excuse and make an appointment in your schedules to get the marriage help you need. Your marriage is good enough to save – so take the time you need and deserve to save it.