In today’s digital world, many of us spend a lot of time online connecting with people—friends, family, and even new acquaintances. But what happens when that online interaction starts to feel a little too personal, even though nothing sexually inappropriate is happening? Is it still cheating?

The answer might surprise you: Yes, it can be.

It’s not just about physical boundaries. Emotional attachment to someone other than your spouse can be a form of infidelity. We’re all aware of how easy it is to get wrapped up in a conversation or friendship online—especially with how instant and accessible the internet makes connections. But what happens when those online interactions begin to replace time with your spouse or deepen into something more emotionally fulfilling?

Maybe you haven’t met the person in real life, but you’re spending hours chatting, sharing personal details, and even beginning to feel a connection that you don’t have with your spouse. If you find yourself feeling closer to this online “friend” than to your partner, it’s time to pause and reflect.

Why Does This Matter?

There’s an emotional intimacy that should be exclusive to your marriage. Your spouse should be your go-to person for support, fun, emotional connection, and yes, even your sexual and intimate fulfillment. If you’re getting those needs met elsewhere, even in the form of an emotional connection, it’s a sign that your relationship is at risk.

I’m not saying that every online conversation is a threat, but if you’re spending more time with someone online than with your spouse, or if you’re starting to feel emotionally closer to them, that’s a red flag.

What Should You Do?

If you find yourself in this situation, it’s time to step back and re-evaluate. My advice is simple: end that emotional connection, just like you would if it were a physical affair. Protect your marriage by keeping that exclusive emotional bond between you and your spouse. This is something worth thinking about this week. If you feel like your emotional intimacy is drifting elsewhere, take action before it impacts your marriage.