We’ve all heard that marriage is all about compromise. But, is there a right  and a wrong way to compromise?

There are times when it’s necessary to give-in and compromise.That doesn’t mean you’re admitting that you’re wrong; it simply means that your spouse’s happiness is more important to you that winning. You’re just picking your battles.

When done right, compromise earns your spouse’s trust and respect, and allows romance to flourish. It has the potential to transform your relationship and creates a better marriage.

Quiet as it’s kept, there is such a thing as too much compromise and it can lead to bitterness, resentment, and anger.

One thing that helps to lessen marital conflict and the need for compromise is to be more intentional about your relationship with your spouse — don’t just wait for the obvious days like Valentines, anniversaries or birthdays; do something special when it isn’t expected.

Marriage counselors often tell clients who are dealing with chronic conflict and living in a state of compromise, to become more intentional about being caring.

It can be as simple as helping with chores, childcare, washing the dishes, picking up the house, getting the groceries, making dinner for the  family, bringing home goodies for snacks, fueling the car, or simply watching your spouse’s favorite television show together.

Another great way to avoid too much compromise and lessen conflict is to really LISTEN and TALK to each other.

Listen to your spouses’ concerns, successes, and feelings.

Listen to their dreams, hopes, and ideas.

This shows your commitment and support. Your spouse will greatly appreciate you for it.

Communicating, helping out and showing that you care, are small gestures that help resolve conflict and create appropriate amounts of compromise, which in turn creates a loving marital environment.