Being happily married is a wonderful thing! It makes you just want to kick back, relax and bask in the glow of marital bliss. This is perfectly normal.

However, it is possible to become too content! Believe it or not, this is a real issue that affects many marriages today.

Complacency is one of the most subtle marriage problems. Most people don’t realize there’s a problem until the damage has been done.

A Happy Marriage is not a Destination

A happy marriage is a journey, not a destination. Just because you are happily married doesn’t mean you can stop working on your relationship with your spouse and start to coast.

Coasting causes your marriage to become routine and mundane. Once that happens, it’s only a matter of time before your spouse starts feeling neglected, unloved and undervalued.

Depending on your spouse’s personality and the nature of your relationship, they may inform you that they no longer feel valued or just stay quiet. They might assume that you know how they feel or that the problem is just as obvious to you as it is to them.

The easiest way to avoid this problem is to understand that God designed marriage to be a lifelong process. There’ always room for growth – no matter how long you’ve been married.

Complacency Is a Big Deal!

Many Couples have the idea that is not a big deal and it’ll work itself out on its own. This is a huge mistake.

How can marital complacency work itself out on its own when it lacks the most important ingredients for doing so – motivation and desire. And even if it was possible for complacency to work itself out, it would take way too long.

Dealing with Complacency in Marriage

Despite the pressures of marriage and work, you need to show your partner how much we value them. Be intentional about investing effort and energy into your marriage.

It only takes a small thoughtful gesture to show that you still love your spouse. (Like offering to rub their feet)

In addition to these little gestures, you should compliment your spouse regularly. Let your spouse know that you love, respect and cherish them and are so happy that they are in your life.

No matter how hard life gets, do not lose intimate moments. Touch hands when you pass one another around the house, kiss one another hello and goodbye, hold hands when you are walking, and hug each other warmly every day.

Marital complacency is a sneaky little problem. Never assume that you and your spouse are so happy that you don’t need to work on your relationship. All marriages require loving nurture and care to flourish and yield a lifetime of joy and happiness.