Love and marriage go hand in hand. In fact, love is one of the main reasons why people get married so it’s difficult for most people to imagine a situation where their love for their spouse might be “too much.” However, such situations do exist. It is possible to love your wife or husband too much.

It is very difficult to know when your love for your spouse is too much so here are some questions to help you with that.

Is your love for your spouse greater than your love for God?

God should always come first in your heart and in your marriage. Therefore, if your love for your spouse is deeper than your love for God, you need to evaluate your relationship with God.

Note that, just because your love for your spouse is greater than your love for God doesn’t mean that you need to love your spouse less. It means that you need to seek God more.

Is your love for your spouse greater than your love for yourself?

While it may be romantic to love your spouse more than you love yourself, it is contrary to scriptures on marriage. God commands husbands to love their wives as their own bodies. Therefore, loving your spouse more is not only unhealthy but also against God’s wishes.

The solution to loving your spouse more than you love yourself, isn’t necessarily loving them less. It is working on yourself until you get to a point where you can proudly declare “I love myself just as much as I love my wife or just as much as I love my husband.”  Love and marriage will be much more enjoyable once you get to that point.

Conventional wisdom says that it is not possible to love too much – especially in marriage. However, this isn’t true. It is possible to love your spouse more than you love God and yourself, and both can be detrimental for love and marriage.