Want to know how to spice up your marriage? Learn how to give a massage.

There are very few things that you can do for your spouse that are better than giving him/her a massage. That’s because everyone loves the intimate touch of a loved one. It is not only relaxing, but it can also enhance intimacy in marriage.

You can try to recreate such a setup in your home. Photo by whologwhy via Flickr. CC-BY 2.0

How to prepare for a massage

• Make sure you have enough time for the massage before you start. You don’t want to give a rushed massage.
• Lock the door and switch off your phones. Any interruptions during the massage could ruin the mood.
• Turn down the light. Soft, indirect light such as candle light is best for setting the mood. Natural sunlight also works well especially in the afternoon.
• Prepare the “massage table.” Any flat, firm surface such as a firm mattress will do. Alternatively, you can put down some pillows on the floor and use that instead.

How to give a back rub

The back is always a good place to start when giving a massage. Back rubs are great for relieving tension in the body and spicing up intimacy in marriage.

Start by applying massage cream or oil all over your spouse’s back and then massage the back in circular motion. Pay attention to the muscles that run parallel to the spine, the lower neck and upper back muscles and the muscles that stretch from the spine to the sides.  Do not forget the lower back muscles.

Start at the base of the spine and slide your hands upwards towards the shoulder blades. Do that about ten times and then massage the muscles on either side of the spine in small circles. Use your thumb or the heel of the hand to apply medium pressure where necessary.

You can spice up your marriage with a foot rub. Photo by Amy Messere via Flickr. CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

How to spice up your marriage with a foot rub

Your spouse probably wouldn’t mind a foot rub at the end of a long tiring day. However, if you are going to give him/her one, it’s best to make sure you know what you are doing.

Using your fingertips, knead the muscle tissue in the foot in your spouse’s foot in circular motion. This will get the blood flowing to all corners of the feet. Apply moderate pressure when massaging the bottom of the feet to prevent tickling. Rub and stroke the foot from the base of the toes to the ankle. On the underside of the foot, run your hands from the base of the toes to the heel.  Repeat each of these strokes about ten times. Finally, gently rotate the foot five times in each direction.

How to give a head and neck massage

Most people underestimate the power of a gentle head and neck massage, but it is actually very relaxing.

Ask your spouse to lie on his/her back. Place your fingers below the ears and gently massage the neck muscles. Then place your hands under the shoulders and bring them to the top of the shoulders towards the neck. Finally, don’t forget the face especially the forehead and cheeks. Place one hand on the forehead or cheek and place the other hand over it. Massage the area in circular motion applying gentle pressure.

Don’t waste any more time trying to learn how to spice up your marriage.  Apply the above tips and give your spouse a wonderful massage today.