Relationship Tips For A Happy Marriage Part 17: Say It With Words
Do you sometimes wonder what you can do to keep your spouse feeling special and loved?
The truth is there is no better than to telling him or her exactly how you feel. A simple, verbal “I love you” or a love note will keep your husband or wife reassured of your love for him or her. ‘I love you’ notes are especially handy for couples who don’t get to express their love in person as much as they would like due to work.
How to Write a Love Note
Can you remember the last time you wrote your spouse a handwritten letter?
Modern day technology has made handwriting letters a thing of the past. However, we shouldn’t be so quick to accept the new status quo. A hand written note can mean a lot more to your spouse than an email or text as it shows that you put a lot of thought into it. The note can be short as long as it conveys your love, commitment, admiration and appreciation.
Languages of Love
To have a healthy and happy marriage, you need to be conversant with the five main ‘languages of love’: words of affirmation, quality time, gift giving, physical touch and acts of service. The more languages you can put into use, the better the relationship between you and your spouse will be.
For instance, when writing love notes, you can use words of affirmation to affirm your love and commitment for your partner. Similarly, you can offer the gift of quality time to your significant other in a note. None of the languages is particularly superior to the others; it all boils down to what language your partner understands best.
The Nitty Gritty
Always begin your love note with a romantic and sentimental greeting followed by simple, straightforward and positive statements. These statements could be anything from an expression of your feelings for your spouse to an appreciation of their special qualities. Lastly, don’t forget to mention how much you are looking forward to seeing your husband and then sign out with loving words like ‘my greatest love’.
What not to do
There is a thin line between being romantic and sounding desperate. You can express your desire and devotion for your spouse in your note but do not suggest things like you can’t survive without them.
Secondly, don’t copy your love letter from the internet, a poem or a song you heard. It’s better to stay original and write down what comes from deep within you. Also, don’t use modern technology such as texting, chatting or tweeting when expressing your love. Take a pen and a piece of paper to write it down. This will mean a lot more to your partner. All in all, remember to have fun, tease and be playful in your love notes.
Take a few minutes right now to note down your love for your partner, then stick the note in an unusual place where you know your partner will find it. This could be in a CD case, on the bathroom mirror or in your partner’s lunch box. Finally, sit back and wait for your spouse’s response to your love note; I guarantee it will be good.