Love and Relationship Advice to Save a Marriage in Crisis

A marriage crisis is when both spouses feel that their marriage problems are bigger than what they can handle.

The crisis could be a result of sexual infidelity, money worries, lack of communication, or the spouses disconnecting from each other.

Regardless of the marriage problem(s), saving a marriage in crisis is a difficult challenge that requires time, patience, and wisdom.

The first step in solving marriage problems is both parties agreeing that they are fully committed and will do whatever it takes to save their marriage.

Next, they have to actually know what to do to get the desired results. Here are some steps for dealing with marriage problems and saving the marriage:

Identify the marriage problems that are threatening your relationship.

Be ready to take full responsibility for any mistakes that you have made instead of shifting blame to your spouse.  In fact, schedule time with your partner to sincerely explain your mistakes; take responsibility and be transparent. This can be a great way for having a healthy discussion to explore possible solutions to your marriage problems.

Additionally, every couple requires quality time to build a strong relationship – a stable relationship with a capacity to deal with marriage problems.

If you haven’t been spending as much time together as you need, then reorder your schedule to make saving your marriage a top priority. It can be as simple as watching a movie together, planning a lunch or dinner date to talk about: the weather, your hopes, feelings and plans for the future. You might be surprised to find how small things like these will enable you to deal with “big” marriage problems.

Something else you can do is to have hobbies that are of mutual interest as this will help you to understand each other better. Couples who really know and care for each other have fewer marriage problems.

Lack of emotional commitment is a major cause of marriage problems. For a marriage to work, your closest friend and confidant must be your spouse. This means that you are there for them and that they are there for you.

Make one another a priority; talk to one another and share your hopes, dreams and feelings about the marriage. Share your deepest secrets with your spouse honestly and without reservation. Doing this will be of great help in handling marriage problems as they arise.

A visit to a relationship counselor either by yourself, or with your spouse, is also recommended in case you need outside help to open up. He or she can help you gain insight into your situation and support you and your relationship goals as you work through your marriage problems. A counselor can also share techniques for healthy communication skills to help keep conversations focused and fair.

Finally, consider creating a contract to deal with marriage problems in order to save your relationship if the situation is dire.

This is a collaborative approach that establishes the ground rules in which both parties negotiate mutual goals and expectations.

A marriage contract is a document agreed upon by both spouses. Examples of what could be included are:

• Division of household chores
• Division of financial obligations
• A date night for both of you, and so on and so forth…

This may sound unusual, but many couples have used the contract concept with great success to work through their marriage problems.

Truth is, couples can overcome any marriage problem and save their relationship as long as true love still exists between them. Genuine commitment, and a viable plan, can save a marriage that is in crisis.