Here’s a secret for a happy marriage that’s simple, easy, and takes less than 25 seconds. Yet, the impact it has on a relationship is profound. 

It’s a sincere prayer that I pray often.

Instead of praying for God to change my spouse, I pray for Him to change me.

I believe that if more couples prayed this prayer, there would be far fewer divorces.

I ask God to help me see my spouse through His eyes. I ask Him to help me recognize just how much of a gift my partner is. Then, I take a moment to thank Him for them. I truly believe my spouse is a treasure—a beautiful gift.

How many times have you wished you could change your spouse? How many times have you seen their faults, shortcomings, and imperfections? And how often do you feel frustrated rather than grateful for them?

Most of us wouldn’t admit thinking those things, but if you’re in a marriage that feels less than fulfilling, or if your spouse has become less than ideal in your eyes for any reason, I urge you to be a person of grace. Be a source of grace for your spouse.

Start by praying for God to change you—to make you more like Him. Ask Him to help you see your spouse’s good qualities and be thankful for the love and commitment they’ve chosen to share with you.

Shifting your focus in this way can completely reshape your marriage. It’s a powerful step that you can take right now, no matter what’s going on in your relationship.This is one of my secrets for a happy and fulfilling marriage, and it’s something you can start doing right after you finish reading this!