Quick question: What do you like most about your spouse? {You still like them, right 🙂 }? 

Think about your husband or wife. Consider their character traits and qualities. List the 

10 things you like most. 

Here’s what I want you to do for me:

I dare you to compliment them on one of those traits at least once daily for the next 10 days. 

Every day for 10 days, share with your spouse what you like most about them.

Think you can do it? Have what it takes? Then I dare you to open your heart and share your feelings with your partner.  

It’s sad but true that some husbands and wives don’t even feel that their spouse likes them anymore. Spouses, with tears in their eyes, have told me that not only do they feel that their husband/wife does not like them anymore, but some even feel that their spouse hates them. 

How would you feel if your spouse felt that way?

What if they felt that you didn’t even like them anymore?

Here’s your chance to make sure that never happens.

Here’s some ideas

Complimenting your spouse in ways that go beyond the physical is a powerful way to deepen emotional intimacy and build a stronger bond. Compliments are an affirmation of appreciation and respect, and when they focus on non-physical qualities or are given in public, they can create a sense of emotional connection, security, and admiration. Here are several examples: 

1. Compliment Your Spouse Specifically (Personal & Meaningful)

When you compliment your spouse in specific, thoughtful ways, it shows you truly notice and appreciate who they are—not just their appearance, but their character, talents, and contributions.

• For their intelligence or wisdom:
  • “I love how insightful you are. The way you explained that made everything so clear—your mind works in such an amazing way.”
  • “I’m always learning from you. Your ability to think through problems and come up with solutions is incredible.”
• For their work ethic or dedication:
  • “You are so dedicated to your work. I admire how much effort you put into everything you do, whether it’s work or helping around the house.”
  • “I’m so proud of how hard you work. You make things happen, and it doesn’t go unnoticed.”
• For their creativity or talent:
  • “I love how creative you are. Whether it’s the way you organize things or how you approach problems, you always think outside the box.”
  • “The way you put that presentation together was brilliant. Your creativity inspires me every day.”
• For their emotional intelligence:
  • “I admire how you can always sense when something’s wrong and know just how to comfort me. You’re so in tune with my feelings.”
  • “You have such a gift for making people feel heard and understood. I’ve seen you do it so many times with others, and it’s one of the things I love most about you.”
• For their nurturing nature:
  • “I see how lovingly you care for our family. You always put everyone’s needs before your own, and I’m so thankful for that.”
  • “You have the most amazing way of making our home feel warm and welcoming. It’s a reflection of your beautiful heart.”
• For their integrity or character:
  • “You are the most genuine person I know. Your honesty and integrity inspire me to be a better person every day.”
  • “I admire how you always do the right thing, even when no one is looking. It’s one of the many reasons I respect you so much.”

2. Complimenting Your Spouse in Public (Building Them Up)

Public compliments can help your spouse feel cherished, respected, and supported, while also enhancing their sense of self-worth. These types of compliments show that you’re proud of them and are not afraid to share that pride with others.

• At a social gathering or with friends:
  • “Did you all know that my spouse is an absolute genius when it comes to problem-solving? I don’t know how they do it, but they always know exactly what to do.”
  • “I just want to say how lucky I am to be married to someone who is not only beautiful inside and out, but who is also one of the most talented people I know. I couldn’t be prouder.”
• At a family gathering:
  • “I don’t know how we’d manage without [spouse’s name]. They keep everything running so smoothly, and they do it with such grace.”
  • “You all know how amazing my partner is—whether it’s supporting me through challenges or just being an incredible parent, I truly couldn’t ask for a better partner in life.”
• In front of your kids or family:
  • “I hope you all realize how lucky we are to have [spouse’s name] in our lives. Their kindness and generosity are a gift to all of us.”
  • “You see how great of a cook [spouse’s name] is, right? I don’t know how they manage to make everything taste so good, but I’m very grateful they do!”

3. Complimenting Beyond Physical Appearance (Emotional, Mental, and Spiritual Qualities)

While physical compliments can certainly feel good, truly deep compliments are often focused on the emotional, mental, and spiritual qualities that make your spouse who they are. These compliments validate their inner qualities and affirm their worth.

• For their kindness or compassion:
  • “I’m constantly amazed at how caring and thoughtful you are. You have such a huge heart, and I see it in everything you do for others.”
  • “Your compassion for others is one of the things I admire most about you. You go above and beyond to make people feel loved and seen.”
• For their sense of humor:
  • “You always know how to make me laugh, even on my hardest days. Your sense of humor is a gift.”
  • “I love how you find joy in the little things. You have this incredible ability to make even ordinary moments so much fun.”
• For their spirituality or faith:
  • “Your faith is such an inspiration to me. The way you live your values every day, no matter what, is something I admire so deeply.”
  • “I love how your spiritual strength guides us as a family. Your faith brings a sense of peace and direction to our lives.”
• For their ability to listen:
  • “I’m so grateful for how well you listen to me. When I’m stressed or upset, you always make me feel heard and understood.”
  • “You have this amazing ability to listen without judgment. I can always count on you to help me sort through my thoughts and feelings.”
• For their ability to make others feel special:
  • “The way you make everyone feel like they matter is truly incredible. People are naturally drawn to you because of your warmth and kindness.”
  • “You have this magical way of making everyone around you feel seen, heard, and valued.”

4. Complimenting Through Actions (Non-verbal Compliments)

Sometimes, actions speak louder than words. Complimenting your spouse through your actions can show how deeply you appreciate them, often in more meaningful ways than words alone.

• Doing something thoughtful for them: Picking up their favorite snack, writing a heartfelt note, or handling a task they usually do.
• Making time for them: Prioritizing a date night or simply setting aside time to talk, showing that you value your time together.
• Supporting their dreams and ambitions: Offering to help with something they’re passionate about, such as making time for them to pursue a hobby or project they love.
• Acts of service: Stepping in to lighten their load—like taking care of chores or responsibilities they’ve been juggling—shows that you appreciate how hard they work.

SOOOO, now it’s your turn. 

Make your list of 10 things. Now compliment your spouse every day for ten days.We’d love to hear how it goes for you. So leave a comment under today’s post. (See what we did there :)?)