Could you be headed for divorce without even knowing it?  Here’s how to find out – and if you are headed for divorce, you need to take action today.

Researchers have identified that negative communication patterns are the #1 predictor of divorce.

It’s not infidelity, abuse, or even a lack of sexual intimacy – it’s negative communication.

This begs the question: Could negative communication patterns be triggering the other issues in a marriage?

Think about it for a moment. Who wants to be around someone who constantly spews negativity—through words, looks, tones, and gestures?

I certainly don’t.

So, here’s the important question you need to ask yourself today:

How much of the communication with my spouse is filled with negative patterns?

Be honest with yourself. Don’t bury your head in the sand, because this is something you need to deal with. If you don’t, one of two things will happen:

1. You’ll get divorced
2. You’ll find yourself enduring a very unhappy marriage

If you’re ready to make a change, here are some key steps to help you shift your communication patterns:

1) DECIDE to Remove Negative Communication Patterns—and then REMOVE Them

Research has shown that getting rid of just one negative communication pattern does more to increase marital happiness than adding five positive behaviors.

That’s huge!

So, make the conscious decision right now to stop being the source of negative communication with your spouse.

2) Let Your Spouse Know How Much You Appreciate Them

Take time to acknowledge and appreciate the little things your spouse does for you and your family.

Show your spouse you care by showering them with compliments, affirmation, and heaps of praise.

3) Use Kind, Gentle, and Caring Language

Your spouse should be the one person in the world you hold in the highest regard. Treat them with the utmost courtesy and respect.

Be kinder to your spouse than you are to anyone else.

Remember: Commitment means choosing to do or say only what’s in the best interest of your spouse—even when it costs you to do so.

You’ll never regret being gentle with your spouse.By committing to these changes, you’re not only strengthening your relationship, but you’re also creating a more peaceful and loving atmosphere that can help you both thrive. Communication truly is the foundation of a healthy marriage, and positive, respectful communication is one of the best ways to build it.