This week’s marriage tip is short and sweet, but I’m keeping it brief because I want it to have a big impact.

So, here it is—the #1 clue that your marriage might be in trouble and headed for divorce:

Negative patterns of communication.

According to researchers at the University of Denver, these negative communication patterns are some of the most reliable predictors of divorce.

Think about it for a moment—what does communication look like in your marriage? Are your conversations filled with frustration, criticism, or defensiveness? Or do you find that most of your interactions are respectful, loving, and solution-oriented?

If you recognize negative patterns in your communication, it’s time to address them. And if you’re in a good place communication-wise, that’s wonderful! But even the best relationships can benefit from a little extra attention in this area.

My tip for this week is simple: Take some time to evaluate the quality of communication in your marriage. Are there unhealthy patterns you can identify? Whether it’s criticism, sarcasm, or shutting down, now is the time to recognize it and change it.

And then, work together to fill your conversations with grace, warmth, kindness, and love. These small shifts can lead to bigger changes, making your relationship stronger and more fulfilling.Communication is the foundation of every healthy marriage. Let’s make sure we’re building it on positive, uplifting, and loving words.