Research indicates that many couples rarely look each other in the eyes during daily interactions. This might seem trivial, but making eye contact is a crucial element for emotional bonding and connection in a relationship. 

So, my question for you is this:

When was the last time you gazed deeply into your mate’s eyes?

Consider the implications of this question. In our fast-paced lives, it’s easy to get caught up in daily routines, distractions, and responsibilities, often neglecting the simple yet profound act of looking into each other’s eyes. Studies have shown that eye contact activates areas of the brain associated with emotions, empathy, and connection. When we hold someone’s gaze, we communicate a sense of presence and attentiveness that words alone cannot convey.

This week, we encourage you to embark on a marriage “fitness” assignment: find an occasion (or create one) where you and your spouse can hold each other’s gaze for at least ten seconds.

This simple act can be transformative. Here’s why:

1. Strengthening Emotional Bonds: Prolonged eye contact can increase levels of oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone.” This hormone plays a significant role in forming attachments and building trust, reinforcing the emotional connection between partners.
2. Enhancing Communication: Eye contact allows for non-verbal communication that conveys understanding, affection, and empathy. It signals that you are engaged and fully present in the moment, which can significantly enhance the quality of your conversations.
3. Fostering Deeper Intimacy: The act of gazing into each other’s eyes can create a vulnerable space where both partners feel seen and valued. This vulnerability fosters a deeper sense of intimacy, allowing for emotional barriers to dissolve and creating an environment where both partners can express their feelings freely.
4. Creating Meaningful Moments: Finding time for this eye contact exercise can encourage you to be more intentional about your interactions. Whether during a quiet moment at home, a stroll in the park, or while enjoying a meal together, these shared moments can deepen your relationship in ways that everyday distractions might prevent.

As you engage in this exercise, pay attention to how it makes you feel. You may find that it opens up new avenues for conversation, invites laughter, or even brings a sense of calm and connection that has been missing.