If You Don’t Have 100% Commitment You Don’t Have Anything
Marriage is about two people who have chemistry, connection, and compatibility and want to be together (chemistry and connection aren’t enough without compatibility because compatibility means having shared values, standards, goals, mindsets, and beliefs).
100% Commitment or You Have Nothing
Marriage isn’t about one person dragging the other down the aisle to fulfill a dream, meet an unhealthy emotional need, or please people.
In marriage, both people must be 100% committed to each other and the relationship.
Anything less than a 100% commitment doesn’t cut it. Furthermore, it’ll never work if one person is 100% committed and the other is only 90% committed.
Some People Avoid Commitment
Commitment is hard for some people.
Some people are afraid to commit or don’t want to commit because of fears, wounds, and scars.
And even if they found the absolute perfect person on the planet, if such a thing were to exist, some people would never commit because that’s not what they want or are looking for.
The issue of commitment is huge.
You can’t force someone to commit. And you should be very cautious about trying to persuade or talk your significant other into committing.
You’ll Know If They Want to Commit
Committing makes some people feel certain and secure about their relationship.
In contrast, for others, it makes them feel uncertain and insecure, especially if they’re unsure about the relationship or they’re the type of person who’s always waiting for something better to come along; (who’d ever want to commit to that type of person anyway?).
If a person is interested and wants to commit, they will. It’s that simple.
If you’ve reached the point where you’re ready for something permanent and want to be 100% committed to your partner in marriage, then you must find someone who matches your desire and commitment; otherwise, you’re setting yourself up for heaps of hurt and disappointment.
Deciding to get married and stay married means committing your life and love exclusively to your partner.
But this quality of commitment must come from both people in the relationship; otherwise, the marriage is doomed from the start.
Only when you’re fully committed to each other do you have a chance to overcome the challenges life throws at you because you’re more likely to work together to protect the relationship for healthier, happier marriage.
Marriage is choosing to spend the rest of your life with one person and sticking by them in the good times and bad.
Getting married is a public declaration of your love and commitment to each other that’s also backed by legal documentation.
Marriage is so much more than just a beautiful, romantic wedding day.
Your marriage starts the moment you exchange vows and are pronounced husband and wife by the person officiating the ceremony.
Once married, you’ve committed to being in a legally binding relationship with your spouse.
Reasons Why People Don’t Commit
There are many reasons why people don’t want to commit to a legally-binding marital relationship: loss of freedom and personal space, monogamy, an unwillingness to compromise, inability to share their true self with another, lack of trust (often caused by failed relationships), or they’re not ready for a commitment. A marriage (and probably the relationship) isn’t worth pursuing if a partner won’t commit because of these issues.
What is Commitment?
Commitment is twofold. First, being committed to another person in marriage means you have dedicated yourself to them exclusively. You put their needs before yours and make them your highest priority.
Second, commitment also refers to the idea of loyalty. Both partners must be exclusively dedicated to each other and unwaveringly loyal.
Loyalty keeps you in the relationship even when things aren’t going so well.
Complete dedication and loyalty build trust and faith in one another.
If only one partner is dedicated and loyal in the relationship, then only one partner is committed, which means the marriage is in trouble and likely doomed.
In a healthy relationship (let’s stress the word “healthy”), being committed in marriage means giving yourself fully to your spouse and putting their needs and happiness first by loving them selflessly and serving them unselfishly, even when you don’t feel like it; that’s commitment.
Couples who have chemistry, connection, and compatibility and are 100% committed to each other and their marriage have a strong relationship built on trust that goes the distance and will be happy and blissful along the way.