Excuses are a way to avoid taking responsibility, justify an offence and blame external factors for mistakes. People often opt for excuses when they feel the real reason is not good enough to elicit sympathy or any other desired reaction from their spouses.

Since excuses are usually seen as a cop out, they can be the source of doubt, resentment and other relationship problems.

Take responsibility!           

Realize that you are responsible for your happiness and the success of your marriage. You are responsible for every action and decision that you make, and there is not much that you cannot accomplish if you apply yourself. If your marriage isn’t going well, it is no one else’s fault but your own. This may seem like a huge burden but unless you rationalize and accept it, you will always be tempted to make excuses.

It is okay to make mistakes!

Nobody likes to fail. Many of us would rather make excuses than accept that we have failed to live up to our spouses’ expectations. However, it is more successful to admit that you have failed and move past it than to make excuses and live in fear of being found out. You are also more likely to take responsibility and do things right the first time when you have no excuse to fall back on.

Find a solution

Realize that you chose to get married out of your own free will and if you are unhappy, it is partly your fault! After all, it is a direct consequence of your decision. Once you accept total responsibility for everything that happens in your marriage, you will have an easier time coming up with solutions for your problems.

Taking responsibility goes a long way in preventing anger, resentment, and doubt from building up in your relationship. It keeps the two of you from blaming one another and help each of you to develop a strong character. Begin your journey to a healthier relationship with your partner by cutting out the excuses today.