Married Life in the Fast Lane
Do you sometimes feel like you’re always in a rush and never have time to catch up with your husband or wife? Well, you’re not alone; this is what married life is like for many couples today.
The hustle and bustle of modern life has made it challenging for busy spouses to devote enough time, energy and attention to each other. As a result, many people are excelling at work and in other areas of their lives at the expense of their marriages.
The only way a busy couple can avoid growing apart is through constant communication. Just like a pilot needs to stay in constant communication with the people on the ground to avoid crashing the plane, you and your spouse need to constantly talk to each other to keep your relationship alive. But how do you do that when the two of you barely see each other due to your busy schedules?
The answer is to take advantage of technology. Talk on the phone during your lunch breaks, text throughout the day, face time, email and leave notes around the house.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have in-person conversations with your husband or wife. However, chances are that you and your spouse are usually too tired to talk by the time you get home.
There should be places in your home where work is not allowed. For starters, working in bed should be a complete no-no.
Bringing your laptop to bed causes you to miss out on the chance to catch up, make plans or discuss important issues with your spouse in a quiet, tender setting. Even if you’re not in the mood to talk, just being in each other’s presence without any distractions helps you feel connected. It’s also good for intimacy in marriage.
If possible, the dinner table should also be an electronic-free “sacred space”. This de-stresses dinner and gives you a chance to catch up with your partner and your kids.
You can’t sit around waiting for you and your partner’s schedules to match up so that you can spend time together. Doing so will put you on the fast track to an unhappy marriage.
There’ll be times when you’ll have to say no to work, family, friends and even the kids so that you can spend time with your husband or wife. It’ll be difficult but if your marriage is a priority, you’ll make it work.
Married life in the fast lane is quite challenging but talking to each other constantly, having sacred spaces and prioritizing your marriage can keep you grounded.