Relationship Tips for a Happy Marriage Part 90: The Grass is not Greener
In life, it is natural to wonder whether the grass is greener on the other side; especially when your chosen path gets rocky. Sadly, marriage is no exception to this rule. Marriage is tough and married couples go through rough patches all the time. Unfortunately, some people give up too easily due to a false illusion of greener grass on the other side. They make rash decisions without seeking counseling on how to save a relationship.
The grass is not greener on the other side; it is greener where you water it. It is much smarter to put effort towards nurturing an existing relationship instead of starting a new relationship with a stranger. The last thing you want is to jump from the frying pan into the fire.
Don’t End Your Marriage Just Yet
Some things are just not worth ending your marriage over, especially if they can be fixed by counseling. These include:
Lack of Intimacy
Do you or your partner have any chemistry left in your marriage or has it worn off? Are you satisfied? Lack of intimacy is not reason enough to call off your marriage because it can easily be fixed. As long as there is something worth saving in your marriage, you can see a counselor about your intimacy issues. For instance, you might still enjoy your spouse’s company and that should be motivation enough for you to seek counseling and learn how to save your marriage.
Lack of Communication
Married couples argue all the time. You are not the first and neither will you be the last. Learning how to communicate effectively is a lifelong process. Just because you and your spouse are not communicating well right now doesn’t mean that your marriage is doomed. You can work on it and get better at it.
Has the honeymoon phase of your relationship passed? Just because your marriage is not all fireworks anymore doesn’t mean that your spouse doesn’t love you anymore. It’s just that the initial hormone-induced excitement has subsided.
You can still have a happy marriage beyond the honeymoon phase. As long as the two of you still care deeply for one another, you can work on rekindling the spark in your relationship.
Even though your marriage doesn’t look anything like you imagined it would be, there is no use throwing it all away because you think you could be happier with someone else. Unless you are in an abusive marriage, almost everything else can be worked out. However, both of you must be committed to the marriage and willing to seek counseling and advice on how to save a relationship.