When Was the Last Time You Touched Your Spouse Like This?
Studies claim we need four hugs a day for maintenance, eight to be healthy, and twelve to thrive.
I am not sure how accurate that research is, but I am in.
How many hugs do you and your spouse enjoy daily?
Giving and receiving loving touch frequently with your spouse makes you healthier and your marriage happier.
Science Says
Research consistently shows that human touch is powerful.
In studies involving premature infants, babies who were gently stroked several times a day gained significantly more weight and developed faster than those who were not touched.
Loving touch can even help sustain life. Sadly, the lack of it, especially among infants, can have serious consequences.
We were designed to be at our best when we are socially connected, and one of the most powerful ways we connect is through loving touch.
Don’t Be So Touchy
Some people get a little uncomfortable when it comes to physical touch.
If that sounds like you, then please hear this in the spirit it is intended:
Get over it and be touchy, especially when it comes to your spouse.
Remember when you could not keep your hands off each other?
Why not relive those days again?
Getting Started With Touch
How you choose to bring more touch into your marriage is up to you, but here are a few ideas if you need a place to start:
- Run your fingers through your partner’s hair
- Hold their hand and warm it with your own
- Gently kiss them on the neck
- Touch their leg or squeeze their knee
- Rest your hand on the small of their back
- Hug them and hold them close for at least five seconds
- Rub their shoulders
- Massage their feet
- Put your arm around them
- Rest your head on their shoulder
- Take a walk hand in hand
The goal is not perfection. The goal is connection.
How Long Has It Been?
How long has it been since you walked up to your spouse and gave them a hug for no reason at all?
When was the last time you surprised them with a kiss?
When was the last time you showed affection in public by simply holding their hand?
Touching your spouse sends a powerful message.
It says you like them.
It says you enjoy being close to them.
It says they still matter to you.
Let your feelings of love, warmth, and compassion flow from your heart to your spouse through simple, consistent touch.
This world is cold enough.
Warm up your marriage with loving touch and watch your connection deepen and your love continue to grow.
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