There’s something about top 10 lists that people just love.
They’re quick, they’re easy, and they give us a sense of order in a busy world. But what if a simple top 10 list could actually help you build a stronger, more connected marriage?

Well… it can.

Today’s marriage tip is simple, but don’t underestimate its power. This small shift in focus could lead to a big change in your relationship.

Step 1: Make Your List

Start by taking just a few quiet minutes today and write down:

10 things you like about your spouse.

That’s it.

They don’t have to be dramatic or profound. They can be little things:

• The way they laugh at your bad jokes
• How they always make your coffee just right
• Their work ethic
• How great they are with the kids
• The way they calm you down when you’re stressed
• Their faith, patience, smile, hugs…anything!

The point is to shift your attention away from the day-to-day frustrations and toward the positive qualities that made you fall in love in the first place.

Step 2: Take 10 Seconds to Reflect

Once you’ve made your list, take just ten seconds, literally, to think deeply about one item on it.

Let yourself really feel it. Smile about it. Remember why it matters to you.

This simple moment of reflection does two powerful things:

1. It helps you stay focused on your spouse’s strengths instead of their flaws.
2. It strengthens emotional connection, even if you’re apart.

That’s the quiet magic of gratitude. It nurtures connection without fanfare or effort.

Step 3: Go One Step Further (If You Dare)

Now, if you’re feeling bold, courageous, and just a little bit daring…
Here’s how to take this to the next level:

Tell your spouse.

Text them. Call them. Whisper it when you walk by. Look them in the eyes and say:

“Hey, I was thinking today about how much I appreciate [insert one thing]. I’m really glad you’re in my life.”

Watch what happens.

That small gesture could turn an ordinary day into a meaningful one—for both of you.

Why This Works So Well

We live in a world where people constantly feel under-appreciated, even by those closest to them. We assume our spouses “just know” how we feel. But assumptions don’t build intimacy…intentional appreciation does.

When you take just a few seconds to express a specific reason why you love or admire your spouse, it sends a powerful message:

You matter. I see you. I value you.

And that message? It lights up the heart with love, happiness, and joy.

Challenge for This Week:

1. Make your list of 10 things you like about your spouse.
2. Pick one item and reflect on it for 10 seconds.
3. Bonus points: Share it with them.

That’s it. No grand gestures. No dramatic changes. Just small, intentional acts of love that can make a big difference over time.

Because when appreciation becomes a habit, connection becomes a lifestyle.