This week’s marriage tip might not be the most “politically correct,” but that doesn’t make it any less true. So let’s dive in.

Last week, we talked about the different needs of men and women in marriage, and how these needs often vary. Today, we’ll touch on two more critical needs that are vital for a thriving relationship.

Women Need Commitment

Let’s start with the one you might expect: women need commitment. But here’s the tricky part — it can be a bit more complicated than it sounds.

A wife wants to see her husband taking responsibility for providing for the family, ensuring that the family feels safe and secure. This is a demonstration of his commitment to the family. But the real challenge lies here:

While a woman wants her husband to take responsibility as the provider for the family, she also needs his commitment to her to be stronger than any other commitment in his life — stronger than his commitment to his career, extended family, friends, or even to himself.

This can be tricky for a man to navigate. A woman typically expects her husband’s commitment to her to surpass all other priorities. To her, it’s straightforward, but for a man, this is where things can feel complex.

So, husbands, take a moment to evaluate your commitment to your wife and ask yourself:

• “Is my commitment to my wife stronger than any other commitment in my life?”
• “What are some ways I can show her she’s my highest priority?”

Men Need Domestic Support

Now, let’s address the not-so-P.C. part of this week’s tip: men need domestic support.

Before you start thinking we’re suggesting that husbands need a “domestic servant,” let’s clarify what we mean. What we’re talking about here is not servitude, but rather, the essential role that a wife can play in creating a nurturing, supportive home environment for the family.

It’s often said that the woman is the queen of the castle. In this sense, a wife should take the lead in creating a home that feels like a sanctuary — a place of refuge where her family can rest and recharge. This is more than just about cleanliness or chores; it’s about building an environment that is emotionally supportive, peaceful, and comforting.

That’s not to say that household responsibilities should fall solely on the wife, but we’re pointing out that a husband’s need for domestic support is just as important as a wife’s need for commitment. It’s about partnership and balance.

Wives, think about this:

• “What can I do this week to improve the environment of our home?”
• Maybe it’s adding some plants, hanging a few family pictures, or lighting candles with your husband’s favorite scent. Small touches like this can make a big difference.

The Heart of the Matter

When you step back and think about it, both of these needs — commitment from the husband and domestic support from the wife — are rooted in love and respect. Your spouse chose to spend the rest of their life with you because they believed, deep down, that no one else could satisfy the needs of their heart, mind, and soul quite like you.

That thought should make you feel pretty special, right?

So, this week, consider how you can meet your spouse’s needs — whether it’s showing commitment or providing domestic support — and notice the positive effects it will have on your marriage.Let’s make this week about strengthening those core needs and enjoying the deeper connection that comes with truly caring for one another.