There’s a very good chance you’re not doing this often enough — and it could be quietly hurting the people you love most.

If recent heartbreaking events in the world have taught us anything, it’s this:
We don’t have time to put off expressing love and appreciation.

So let me ask you something that’s been on my heart:

• How often do you tell your spouse how much you truly appreciate them?
• How often do you speak those words to your kids?
• Do you thank God daily for the gift of their love?

We spend so much time noticing each other’s flaws and shortcomings. It’s easy to get frustrated, caught up in the chaos, or distracted by the little things that don’t really matter.

But love is a gift. And time is short — shorter than we think.

A Simple Challenge for the Week

This week, I want to challenge you (and myself) to do something powerful and intentional:

• Make a list of at least five things you admire, respect, or appreciate about your spouse.
  (Go for more if you’re inspired!)
• Then, share it with them. Don’t wait. Don’t overthink it. Just speak from the heart.

Here’s some ideas:

1. Say It Out Loud
   Words of affirmation are powerful. Whether it’s “I appreciate you” or “Thank you for all you do,” saying it out loud makes a huge impact.
2. Show Interest in Their World
   Ask about their day, encourage their goals, and get involved in their interests. It shows you care about what matters to them.
3. Give Without Being Asked
   Small acts of kindness, like filling their gas tank or tackling a chore they dislike, show you’re thinking of them.
4. Use Touch and Affection
   Physical gestures like a hug, a kiss, or holding hands help create closeness and emotional warmth.
5. Celebrate Effort, Not Just Results
   Acknowledge the effort they put into something, even if the outcome isn’t perfect. “I see how hard you’re working” goes a long way.
6. Speak Well of Them to Others
   Praise your spouse when they’re not around. It builds trust and shows respect.
7. Say Thank You for the Small Things
   Express gratitude regularly, even for the little things. It keeps your bond strong and your heart soft.

And ask yourself:
If today were the last day you had together, what would you want them to know?Say it now.
It will make their day — and it just might transform yours.