A ten-year-old girl and boy were asked: How do you decide who to marry?

The boy said, “You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.”

The girl answered, “No person really decides before they grow up who they’re going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you get to find out later who you’re stuck with.”

YIKES!  The stuff kids say makes you laugh, doesn’t it?

Surprisingly, I’ve seen those attitudes in couples I’ve counseled who were heading for divorce.

An Attitude of Selfishness

One is the attitude of “selfishness”. I’m not saying that the ten-year-old boy was being selfish, but if you’re thirty years old and still think that way, then
“Houston, we have a problem”.

Think about it, though. 

Have you observed marriages where a spouse expects the other to wait on him or her like hired help? 

An Attitude of Being “Stuck”

And then the second attitude of feeling “stuck.”

Ever felt stuck in your marriage?

You thought you were marrying this wonderful person who overflowed your heart with joy. But that was then. And now you feel trapped.

Can you do anything to break free from the attitudes of selfishness and “marital imprisonment?”

Absolutely.

Someone once said that a successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.

The thing you can do to break free is to fall in love with the same person again, again & again.

Love = freedom.
Love = happiness.
Love = forever.

What’s keeping you from falling in love with your spouse all over again?

Here’s something YOU can do to start turning things around today:Make your spouse feel loved.

This works. So do it 🙂

What’s one thing you can do to make your spouse feel loved? Answer the question and determine to do it.

Do it today.

In fact, ask yourself that question every day. And then do that “thing” daily.

People who wait to feel loved rarely experience long-term love. But those who choose to be loving will experience love every day for the rest of their lives.

So, what is one thing you can do today to make your spouse feel loved? 

Now go do it.

It’s your choice when it comes to your marriage whether you’re doing time or doing love.