Men and women, simply put, are different.  I know we’ve all heard it, possibly read the books, and some of you have even studied it:  Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.  

So, yes, men and women are different.  This becomes important when we realize those differences affect the most dominant needs of each sex.  When we recognize these differences and take note of how that changes our partner’s NEEDS… we hit upon one of the greatest ways to reduce marital conflict.

For example:

MEN NEED a recreational companion – someone with whom to share an adventure because they bond by shared activity. 

So if you want to strengthen your bond with your husband, go have some have fun with him! 

Here’s a bonus tip regarding what men need (let us apologize in advance for stating the painfully obvious). Men are visually stimulated (earth-shattering news, we know). A

husband needs a spouse who does her best to look good for him. 

Now let’s talk about some of the needs that women have.

WOMEN NEED openness and honesty — these are essential qualities that women look for in men. 

So if you are a man who is reading this, practice being emotionally available to your wife. And ALWAYS be honest (unless she asks you, “Does this dress make me look _____?” You always, ALWAYS, say, “You look absolutely beautiful, Dear.”).

A woman needs to be able to trust what you say & know how you feel. 

So men, do you have a tendency to withdraw from your wife? Practice engaging her more often, and lovingly express how you feel.  

Closely related to trust are two other needs that women have: Women need love & respect. 

So if you are a man who is reading this, then find caring ways to show your love and respect to your wife. Let your every word and touch be a demonstration of how much you love and respect her. 

Actually, love and respect are important to men, too. So this particular tip is one that both husbands and wives would do well to practice.  Which suggests…we aren’t ALWAYS different!  Pay attention to the specific needs of YOUR partner this week.  You’ll be surprised how it “aligns the planets” in your relationship!