Or maybe the better question is… do you think your spouse is boring?

One of the most common concerns couples have shared with us over the years is this:

“Our marriage feels dull and boring… because my spouse is just too predictable.”

Sound familiar?

Let’s be honest and tell me…how predictable do you think you are?
Before you answer, let me say this: predictability isn’t a bad thing.

In fact, it’s a good thing in many ways. Predictability brings a sense of security, comfort, and trust to a relationship. It means your partner knows they can count on you, on your words, your actions, your presence.

But here’s the flip side…

Too much predictability can make a relationship feel flat.
When the adventure disappears, so can the spark.

And what happens when someone feels like their marriage is dull and lifeless?
They may start looking for excitement outside the marriage—and sometimes, that leads them into the arms of someone else.

So, what’s the answer?

Marriage needs a balance:

Predictability + Unpredictability = A thriving relationship.

If your spouse seems “too predictable,” or if you feel like your relationship has become too routine, try adding a bit of the unexpected. Here are a few simple, creative ways to shake things up in a good way:

4 Simple Ways to Add a Spark of Surprise:

1. Join them in something they love.
   If your spouse spends hours watching sports every weekend, turn it into a fun event. Watch with them. Make snacks. Invite friends over. Make it a party!
2. Surprise them with something thoughtful.
   Does your spouse love gardening? Buy them a unique plant and help them take care of it. It’s a sweet and personal gesture that shows you care.
3. Break the routine with a simple invitation.
   Instead of turning on the news after dinner, invite them for a sunset walk. Change the scenery, get some fresh air, and reconnect.
4. Add romance to the “everyday”.
   While on that walk, stop for a moment. Hug them. Whisper, “I love you.” Take their hand. Keep walking. Sometimes, small surprises are the most meaningful.

Bottom Line?

If you want a happy marriage, do the unexpected every now and then.
Be a little less predictable. Be a little more spontaneous.
And in doing so, you just might find yourselves becoming mad about marriage again!

Your challenge this week:
Do one unexpected, fun thing for your spouse.Let it be a small spark that rekindles something beautiful between you.